The Best 20 of 2019
What a year. After writing every Monday and Thursday or Saturday since September 7, 2019 (more than 20 articles and over 20,000 words), I’m taking today to share the best articles I’ve written over the past months…
1. Hopeless romantic and love phobic?
It may seem impossible to pull yourself together right now. It may seem to be too much of work trying to find your lost faith. But you have to. Because getting over all of your heartbreaks, the constant frustration you carried around for months, learning all the lessons each heartbreak taught you, making the effort to believe in love, in yourself once again, will be worth it in the end.
2. Things all Starving Artists Believe
The Big Break will come. Instead of creating a plan or creating something themselves, the starving artist believes that their Big Break will come and they’ll be instantly rich, famous, and happy.
3. Make More Art: The Health Benefits of Creativity
Open a blank document and start typing. Put pen to paper and sketch a drawing. Grab your camera and take a picture. Turn up the music and dance. Start a conversation and make it a good one.
Build something. Share something. Craft something. Make more art. Your health and happiness will improve and we’ll all be better off for it
4. Can’t Stick to Good Habits?
Life goals are good to have because they provide direction, but they can also trick you into taking on more than you can handle. Daily habits — tiny routines that are repeatable — are what make big dreams a reality.
5. MAKE THINGS
Too many people die with their best ideas still inside of them.
Your legacy is what you share, not what you know or harbor within yourself. Unshared knowledge is like potential energy. It’s great to have, but it will never do anything unless you
turn it into something else.
Turn your knowledge into a book. Turn your inspiration into art. Turn your words into music. Turn your ideas into a business. Build something. Write something. Create something.
We all have words inside of us — words that could change the world, words that could entertain and delight, words that could teach and improve — but these words can only unleash their power when shared. That’s why I write every week and it’s why I believe that the world needs more people to find the courage to make their work public.
7. It’s Not Your Job to Tell Yourself “No”
From what I can tell, we all doubt ourselves from time to time. The problem, of course, is that telling yourself no prevents you from getting started at all. When you decide not to act, you deny yourself opportunities.
Once I realized this, I started following a simple little rule that has helped me stick to things and persevere when I normally would have given up.
Here’s how it works and why you should use it…
8. Why Do We Procrastinate?
This is one reason why you might go to bed feeling motivated to make a change in your life, but when you wake up you find yourself falling back into old patterns. Your brain values long-term benefits when they are in the future (tomorrow), but it values immediate gratification when it comes to the present moment (today).
9. Sticking to Your Goals for Good
New identities require new evidence. If you keep casting the same votes you’ve always cast, you’re going to get the same results you’ve always had. If nothing changes, nothing is going to change.
10. How to Stop Procrastinating in just 2 Minute
The Two-Minute Rule states “When you start a new habit, it should take less than two minutes to do.”
You’ll find that nearly any habit can be scaled down into a two-minute version:
“Read before bed each night” becomes “Read one page.”
“Do thirty minutes of bible study” becomes “Take out my bible.”
“Study for class” becomes “Open my notes.”
“Fold the laundry” becomes “Fold one pair of socks.”
“Run three miles” becomes “Tie my running shoes.”
10 OF THE 3-2-1 HIGHLIGHTS
I.3-2-1 OCTOBER 20, 2O19
The idea that “change is hard” is one of the biggest myths about human behavior.
The truth is, you change effortlessly and all the time. The primary job of the brain is to adjust your behavior based on the environment.
Design a better environment. Change will happen naturally.
II. 3-2-1 OCTOBER 27, 20191
When you say no, you are only saying no to one option.
When you say yes, you are saying no to every other option.
No is a decision.
Yes is a responsibility.
Be careful what (and who) you say yes to. It will shape your day, your career, your family, your life.
III. 3-2-1NOVEMBER 2, 2019
If you haven’t started, then taking action is more important than finding a better strategy.
If you’re already taking action, then ensuring you’re working on the right thing is more important than working harder.
Your effort sets your floor. Your strategy sets your ceiling.
IV. 3-2-1NOVEMBER 10, 2019
If you want to take something more seriously, do it publicly.
Publishing an article pressures you to think clearly. Competing in a race pressures you to train consistently. Presenting on any topic pressures you to learn it.
Social pressure forces you to up your game.
V. 3-2-1NOVEMBER 16, 2019
The surest way to prevent yourself from learning a topic is to believe you already know it.
VI. 3-2-1NOVEMBER 25, 2019
How long does it take to build a habit?
21 days? 30 days? 66 days?
The honest answer is: forever. Because once you stop doing it, it is no longer a habit.
A habit is a lifestyle to be lived, not a finish line to be crossed. Make small, sustainable changes you can stick with.
VII. 3-2-1 DECEMBER 4, 2019
The most satisfying form of freedom is not a life without responsibilities, but a life where you are free to choose your responsibilities.
VIII. 3-2-1DECEMBER 16, 2019
New goals don’t deliver new results. New lifestyles do.
And a lifestyle is not an outcome, it is a process. For this reason, all of your energy should go into building better habits, not chasing better results.
IX. 3-2-1DECEMBER 21, 2019
Compliment others more.
You’ll barely remember you did it, but the other person may never forget that you did.
Kindness has unlimited upside.
X. 3-2-1DECEMBER 28, 2019
The hardest part of solving a problem is accurately defining it.